Yes, I know it’s very difficult to forgive those who have hurt you and left you beaten and battered. All you want to do is hurt them back and make them pay. You keep thinking and pondering about it day after day, week after week and month after month.
What you don’t realise is that you are suffering ten fold by holding onto that anger and letting it fester and grow within you till it becomes this massive volcano, ready to erupt.
I know how difficult it is to forgive. I have had people in my life that hurt me and damaged me so deeply that I believed I could never ever forgive them. I held onto that anger for years until I realised how much harm I was doing to myself. I kept falling sick very often, I was never really happy. There was always a part of me that was sad. In my heart, I always cursed and abused them and life was pretty much miserable.
Till one day when I met this lady. She held my hand, looked into my eyes and told me she saw so much sadness behind my smile, she wanted to help me. She actually was a healer and she told me my anger and pent up feelings were going to be the end of me if I didn’t stop soon. She said I wasting away my beautiful life on people who did not matter anymore and I really had to stop immediately or it would be very late.
It was a real eye opener for me, hearing those words from a stranger. It came as a real blow to me as I had not realised the harm I was doing to myself. I finally decided to stop and let go.
It was not easy but when I finally did, I felt free.
I could breathe again. I could actually truly smile again and it was a liberating feeling.
Let go of your anger, you will need to forgive to heal. Don’t hold onto it. It is only destroying you.
It is one of the hardest things to do but once done it is also one of the best feelings to experience, the feeling of complete freedom from negativity and resentment.
Let go of that negativity and anger brewing inside of you, allow yourself to heal. How long will you continue with it? Over time it will get worse and reach a stage where you have no control over it anymore and that may be too late.
Start with baby steps now and over time you will learn how to master the art.
Don’t let anger, hurt, resentment and negativity fester inside you.
The toughest part about forgiveness is the fear of being taken advantage of again and the fear of losing control and power. Ironically, forgiveness empowers us and gives the control of how we feel and run our lives back into our own hands.
As Mahatma Gandhi very aptly stated, “the weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Empower yourself with this gift to help you lead a life of happiness, peace and contentment.